Take Care of Yourself
Your No. 1 responsibility is to take care of yourself. You are responsible for your own body, mind and spiritual being. People who are grieving are under immense stress, and some of this stress is happening subconsciously and unconsciously. Grief is a lot of work and can make you feel tired. Robinson recommends walking outside in the fresh air to relieve some stress and get a different perspective. Eating healthy is also very important and will help you feel better.
Be careful not to avoid dealing with your grief by burying your pain with alcohol, drugs or overworking. Robinson said that these responses are “an avoidance tactic.”
“You will not start healing until you deal with these things,” she said.
Other people turn to shopping or just sleeping all the time. Taking your mind off the pain temporarily is not the way to deal with your grief long-term.
It is important to know that depression and grief are not the same. “There can be some interrelationship but they have differences,” Robinson said. “Grief is focused on a particular event. Depression is more focused on yourself and feeling emptiness and despair all the time. If you feel that you are depressed, speak to your physician and talk to them about what you are feeling.”
When you grieve for a loved one, expect that you are going to have some aspects of both depression and grief. Be aware if you do not have at least some moments of lightheartedness and seek help.